Counseling for Women: Safety, Truth, and Support
You are not alone. God sees. We offer trauma-aware, gospel-centered care that prioritizes safety and helps you move forward wisely.
Your Rights to Care, Safety, and Support
You have the right to be believed and taken seriously.
You have the right to gentle, patient, compassionate care.
You have the right to move at your pace—we won’t rush your process or push outcomes.
You have the right to agency and informed choices—your decisions matter, and we will not decide for you.
You have the right to support as you share your story—with dignity, clarity, and care.
You have the right to a practical safety plan—with wise, step-by-step guidance.
You have the right to privacy and clarity about confidentiality—including the limits explained up front.
You have the right to technology-aware safety—we will consider monitoring, tracking, and digital risks. (Learn More)
You have the right to care that does not excuse abuse—we will name harmful behavior plainly and never minimize it.
You have the right to criticism aimed at abusive behavior, not personal attacks—we will be truthful without dehumanizing.
You have the right to a supported care team—you shouldn’t have to carry this alone.
You have the right to appropriate care within our role and expertise—and referrals when another level of help is needed.
*Adapted with gratitude from Darby Strickland’s themes in Is It Abuse? (P&R Publishing).
Understanding the Problem
Abuse is not “normal conflict.” Conflict can be painful, but it assumes basic safety, mutual respect, and the freedom to disagree. Abuse is different: it is a pattern of power, control, and harm that produces fear, confusion, and instability. Many women feel “crazy-making” pressure because the problem isn’t one bad argument—it’s an ongoing system of intimidation, manipulation, and entitlement. For that reason, we do not mutualize abuse as a marriage issue; we treat it as a sin-and-safety issue that requires truth, protection, and wise support.
Unmasking Emotional Abuse: Hidden Destruction and Hope in Christ — language for what you may be experiencing, and why it matters.
Coercive Control Mechanics (Podcast Episode) — how coercive control works and why it’s often hard to name.
Conflict vs. Abuse (Podcast Episode) — simple markers that help distinguish normal conflict from abusive patterns.
Start here (clarity + first steps):
Common forms of abuse may include:
Coercive control: pressure, threats, monitoring, isolation, or “invisible rules” that restrict your choices
Intimidation and fear: anger outbursts, threats, looming presence, property damage, or unpredictable consequences
Manipulation and blame-shifting: denial, minimizing, gaslighting, twisting facts, or making you responsible for his actions
Isolation: limiting friendships, church relationships, family contact, or access to support
Financial control: restricting access to money, accounts, transportation, or resources needed for stability
Spiritual misuse: using Scripture to silence you, demand compliance, excuse harm, or rush “forgiveness” without repentance
Sexual coercion or pressure: demanding access, punishing refusal, or using shame and obligation to control
Punishment patterns: silent treatment, withdrawal, public shaming, or using the children to pressure and destabilize you
What you can expect here
Trauma-aware biblical counseling (empathetic, attuned, paced, and truth-centered)
A place to be heard—your voice matters and doesn’t depend on his version of events
Safety-first support while you discern next steps (Prov 22:3 style wisdom)
A team in your corner: in-house certified biblical counselors + trusted partners so there is consistent support and capacity
Your care pathway
Reach out safely (choose safest contact method)
Initial listening + triage (your story, immediate safety concerns, supports)
Care plan (counseling + safety supports + church coordination if appropriate)
Ongoing counseling (truth, stabilization, boundaries, support network)
Church support (when appropriate) to help shepherding leaders protect and support well
National Hotlines and Services
If you are in immediate danger, call 911.