Abuse Care for the Whole Family
Men who need real repentance, accountability, and new patterns
Women who need safety, clarity, and Christ-centered support
Pastors/leaders who want to respond wisely and protect the flock
We care for the Whole Family
Because the Gospel isn’t only about forgiveness—it’s about renewal, restoration, and new life in Christ—we approach abuse with a care model that serves the whole family and strengthens the whole church.
Biblical Living Family Renewal is our commitment to walk with people toward safety, truth, repentance, and hope through a coordinated continuum of care with three integrated lanes: Counseling for Men (Biblical Counseling and the Men of Peace Cohort), Counseling for Women (Biblical Counseling, Safety, and Support), and Church Support and Education. We counsel men as they face sin honestly and learn Christlike leadership, we ensure wives have a clear pathway to be heard and supported with wisdom and safety, and we help churches respond well—because a man’s sin is never private: it is against God, it wounds his family, and it harms the body of Christ. Our aim is to cultivate churches that recognize abuse, respond with clarity and courage, and support families with compassionate, Gospel-shaped care. We do not treat abuse as “shared marital conflict,” but as a sin-and-safety issue requiring truth, protection, and accountable change.
For Men: If you’ve used controlling, intimidating, or abusive behaviors—and you want real repentance, accountability, and Christlike change (Jer. 17:7–8; Eph. 4:22–24).
For Women: If you feel fearful, confused, worn down, or unsafe—and you need a place to be heard, supported, and helped toward wise safety and stability (Ps. 34:18; Prov. 22:3).
For Churches & Leaders: If you’re trying to respond biblically to abuse—protecting the vulnerable, confronting sin without minimizing harm, and building clear systems of care and accountability (Acts 20:28; Ezek. 34:2–4).
Biblical Counseling for Men
We aim to see men transplanted—by grace—out of the “dry land” patterns of self-rule and harm into the kind of rooted life Jeremiah describes: a man “like a tree planted by water” that sends out its roots and begins to bear steady fruit (Jer. 17:7–8). That means careful root work: exposing false trusts and “broken cisterns” (Jer. 2:13), learning to come to Jesus for living water (John 4:13–14), and growing a life connected to the river of God’s life and healing (Rev. 22:1–2). In practical terms, men receive sound biblical counseling, complete the Men of Peace Course, and join a Men of Peace Support Group, so repentance becomes real patterns—humility, accountability, and safe servant leadership that rejects entitlement and seeks the family’s flourishing (Mark 10:42–45; Eph. 5:25–28).
Counseling for Women
We create a clear, compassionate pathway for women to be heard, supported, and protected while living in truth. God is near to the brokenhearted (Ps. 34:18), He sees and cares for the oppressed (Ps. 10:17–18), and He is “a refuge for the oppressed” (Ps. 9:9). Safety is not selfishness; it is wisdom and stewardship—especially while she waits for her husband to become truly safe and consistent over time (Prov. 22:3). Women receive empathetic, attuned biblical care that understands the pain, fear, grief, and trauma often associated with abuse, and we help her build supports that steady her body and soul as she seeks the Lord’s help, clarity, and strength (Isa. 41:10; Matt. 11:28–30).
Church Support and Education
Because abuse harms not only a family but the body of Christ, we help churches step into their responsibility to shepherd well: to protect the vulnerable, confront sin truthfully, and pursue restoration without minimizing danger (Acts 20:28; Ezek. 34:2–4; Jas. 1:27). We work with churches consultatively to build wise systems of care—support for the wife, accountability for the husband, and leadership clarity that refuses to “mutualize” abuse as merely a “marriage problem” when Scripture treats it as a heart-and-works problem with real harm (Matt. 15:19; Eph. 4:29–32). This includes guidance related to appropriate pastoral response, documentation and support structures, and when needed, church discipline that aims at repentance while safeguarding the flock (Matt. 18:15–17; Gal. 6:1–2; 1 Pet. 5:2–3).
What happens when you reach out?
We listen and discern the right lane
We recommend next steps (counseling/cohort/safety supports/church consult)
We coordinate care appropriately (without mutualizing abuse)
We Prioritize Safety
Because the Gospel is not only about safety—it is about reconciliation to God, repentance, and new life in Christ—our aim is never to reduce ministry to “risk management.” And yet the Gospel includes God’s serious concern for protection, refuge, and justice for the vulnerable. The Lord is “a refuge for the oppressed” (Psalm 9:9) and He calls His people to “seek justice, correct oppression” (Isaiah 1:17). For that reason, we prioritize safety with clarity and courage while walking people toward the deeper work of Gospel renewal—truthfully naming sin, protecting those harmed by it, and pursuing lasting change through Jesus Christ.